Chapter 1: Romance
Falling in love feels amazing... but did you know you’re primarily having a relationship with your “imagination”?
Chapter 2: Conflict
“Why isn’t s/he doing what I want?!” What conflict is, how it arises in relationships, and why even relatively small conflicts (laundry, dishes, etc.) can feel so upsetting.
Chapter 3: How Do You React?
What it means to “opt out” of a conflict—and three opt out styles that may be undermining your relationship.
Chapter 4: There’s Another Way!
Responding rather than reacting. Opting in rather than opting out. How conflict can lead to fresh and unexpected solutions and a stronger, more passionate relationship.
Chapter 5: The Me
How to take good care of yourself, stay true to yourself, and not “lose yourself” when you’re in the midst of a challenging conflict.
Chapter 6: The We
How to discuss “hot topics”—difficult, sensitive, emotionally charged topics—with your partner in a productive way.
Chapter 7: The Situation
Exploring the problem or dilemma that you’re trying to solve with curiosity and vulnerability—and finding creative solutions.
Chapter 8: Before You Do That...
Lastly, before you choose to have an affair (or make any other major decision about your relationship), read this.
The Tools: A list of tools and exercises that we mention throughout this book—and where to find them—in case you’d like to hop to those pages, read those sections again, and refresh your memory.
Susan Clarke and CrisMarie Campbell have been work and life partners for the last 20 years. Together they run Thrive! Inc. where they offer speaking, coaching, consulting, retreats, and workshops with one goal in mind: to help people realize their potential and feel happy, healthy, and fully alive. In other words, to help people thrive!
For the last two decades, they’ve specialized in helping leaders, teams, and entire companies learn how to transform conflict into creativity, innovation, and profit through their proven step-by-step process—a process honed working with hundreds of leaders and teams that they have outlined in their first book, The Beauty of Conflict: Harnessing Your Team’s Competitive Advantage.
For the last decade, they’ve expanded their work from the boardroom to the bedroom, guiding romantic couples through difficult conversations – both big and small. They know that the key to thriving involves knowing how to navigate and use the creative transformational energy of conflict regardless of whether it happens at work or in a marriage.
Their new book, The Beauty of Conflict for COUPLES focuses on helping individuals increase their intimacy, passion, and emotional connection.
Some of their corporate clients include Fortune 100 Companies such as Johnson & Johnson, Microsoft, AT&T and Nationwide, as well as, the Gates Foundation, Children’s Hospital, and San Francisco Giants.